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There are times in every person’s life when we need to take a step back from our desires to deal with our reality. Its easy to say “Time heals all wounds” but not so easy to give time its place when we are desperate to be loved. I know when we are in one of these places, at some deep level we know we are cheating ourselves but we really don’t want to stop. Or perhaps we want to stop but just don’t think its ever going to get any better so why bother. I can tell you from personal experience, it does get better. When we learn to love ourself, it opens up a whole different world of possibility. Especially in the types of partners we attract and the one we end up with.

Fantasy Land

Some quick signs that point to you having delusions of Princess-dom or Knight in Shining Armor Syndrom:

1. You don’t see any of her/his flaws. You think you are perfect together and the other person is just perfect. Perfect, perfect, perfect! 
2. You’ve never met in person, but you just KNOW this person is the love of your life and the father of your future perfect children. You can just TELL from his emails or her phone calls or the pictures you’ve exchanged.
3. You have the tendency to try on last names and name future children within the first few dates.
4. You truly believe that with this person “All we need is love!” All those other deal-breaking behaviors… we’ll get through it with love.
5. You think you are exactly alike! You think alike, you react alike, you have the same dreams and goals…its amazing! You’ve never met someone so like you… except maybe the last time you met someone you were interested in. Hummmmm. Some people are more alike than others and yes, occasionally you meet someone who is surprisingly like you. But often, we are seeing what we like best about ourselves reflected in the other person (fantasy) when the reality is actually quite different. 

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Baggage Carousel

1. You’ve got bags. Lots of em. But the last thing you want to do is deal with them. So, you shove your issues in a dark corner and hope they just don’t come up. Again.
2. You aren’t aware of any outstanding issues you need to deal with. Yes, you keep attracting one bad situation or relationship after the next, but surely that doesn’t have anything to do with you! 

Rebounding 

I could write a whole post on rebounding, but here are some of the fast and easy signs to know if you or the person you are crushing is rebounding:

1. They mention their last relationship. A lot. You find yourself slipping references of your ex into conversation. A lot.
2. You think about your last relationship and compare and contrast with your new person. A LOT. (if you are doing this outside your own head as well, you are REALLY in rebound mode) Some people think its only rebounding if you are doing this and the new people are suffering in comparison. Not so, even if your new boy or girl seems like royalty compared to your ex, you are still in rebounding mentality because your new person isn’t a person in their own right to you yet. They only exist as light or shadow to your ex.
3. You notice your new beau is the EXACT opposite of your ex. Hummm… if you are still pendulum swinging from one side of an extreme to another, you are rebounding.

Never Solo for Long

1. You are never without a date or mate for long. You may protest that you had a period of time when you were single, but no one who knows you can remember it.
2. You think you are always single. BUT, there are people of the opposite sex always in the string. Whether they are “friends with benefits,” “friends” who fill your need to be the center of attention by flirting or pining for you, online romances brewing or even continual pornography to fill in the gaps. 
3. You know that you need to break up with the person you are with, but you are afraid of being alone. You may be alone in the relationship, but you think you prefer that to being alone without one.
4. Something in you believes it’ll never be better than what you have, so you stick with the person even though you know they don’t meet your needs. (Unfair to you both since at some point, your mate will recognize that they always disappoint you and resent you for it.)

In some form or fashion, denial usually plays a huge role in us taking up residence in one of these places. If you aren’t sure, maybe asking a few friends you trust and who KNOW THE WHOLE STORY would help. Even if it’s hard and you are fighting your biological clock telling you to mate up already, give yourself a gift of just a little time and take that time to really start loving yourself well. When you return to the dating game, you’ll not only attract better people, you’ll be a better, healthier and safer person to date.